How do i Handel this?

I think the best course of action is to have a face-to-face, heart-to-heart talk with him. The whisper thing he did at his bar mitzvah...that doesn't seem strictly platonic to me. Its possible that he's afraid of his own feelings, due to the strict nature of the Jewish religion. Just be straight forward with him. If you're not comfortable with telling him about your romantic feelings for him, explain that you miss talking to him and you want to know why he's pulling away. If things don't go as you plan, this conversation may give you the closure you need to get over him and feel better. But hopefully, you'll catch a spark in his eye or something he'll say will tell you that he feels the same way for you. In any case, an in person conversation is probably best. Just make sure its private so he doesn't feel like others are going to judge what he says.